I agree it is a failure for these manufacturers not to standardize a solid way to attach a scope solidly to a tripod. But, it is what it is.
I just will say again that I have been through all these issues with my scope - Kowa 883, and with my long lens and camera body - Canon R6 and Canon RF 100-500. I had many false starts and it was a real pain. You will see the lengthy discussions in a recent thread - might be under the Kowa section? Can't remember. Kirk solved the problems for me 100%. There are others that would work too I am sure.
But, you are right the solution may vary depending on the equipment and the design of the foot. Kirk has many very good solutions for most common equipment and they also have universal type solutions that will work on almost any equipment. You dropped some serious cash on that scope. Might be worth the money to talk to Kirk. They are great people. If they can't help you they will tell you.
Another issue that Kirk helped me with, big time, is the issue of what tripod head to use. Kirk, combined with very good advise from a US photographer who is all over the internet - especially youtub - Hudson Henry, put me on a fluid head arrangement that I love. It works great for my scope and my photographic equipment. The head is an off the shelf Manfrotto 500ah. But, it is modified by replacing the oem top plate and clamp, (which is not arca swiss compatible), with a top plate and clamp manufactured for the 500ah by Kirk, which is arca swiss compatible. Yes, the kirk stuff is a bit pricey, but it is really not too bad. The key though is the the Kirk stuff is very high quality and it works. When you spend the kind of money we all do on scopes and cameras, the last thing you want to do is to cheap out on the tripod connections. We need those connections to be reliable. We don't want our $3-5K scope landing on the pavement. I love this modified fluid head. It is very functional for all I do. I think it might work for you guys too. I would describe it as medium size and weight. Not the best thing maybe for multi week back packing trips in sheep country. Maybe not the best thing for heavy dedicated video production work. But, other than that, it is perfect.
I hope you are able to sort something out.
Rob G.