Jon, here is a Youtube video which gives a brief outline of Live view focussing. I think he's using a Canon 40D here, but the principle is the same. Activate Live view (press start/stop button on 7D), use the top right button to see the selected area at 5x. Press again to see it at 10x. Press again and it returns to 'normal view'. You can use the joystick button to move the selected area around the screen. Notice that in the video he has the focus point (centre of the flower) set to the right of centre.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GezrEyQfr00
Once you have live view selected and have chosen your area to focus on, try holding in the depth of field preview button (usually on the left side of the lens mount, on the camera body, under the lens). This should show a much sharper image as it is stopping down the lens aperture before taking the shot. Normally the aperture only closes down for a split second when you press the shutter.
If you continue to hold the DOF preview button, then alter the aperture, you will see the difference in DOF as you stop the lens down. Still holding down the DOF preview button, try manually focussing the lens when it is set at a wide aperture, and you will see the point of sharpest focus move forwards and backwards very noticeably.
Although this method of focussing is indispensible for macro and close-ups, I find it very useful for static birds too, as it allows you to focus on the head or eye. We've all had shots, especially of large birds, where the back end of the bird is in sharper focus than the head!
It can also be very useful to set the back button for AF (instead of the shutter button) then, when you have selected the area to focus on and magnified it to 5x, use AF to focus. AF in live view is generally slower, but often more accurate than normal AF.
As for tripods, I don't think it matters too much, so long as the legs can splay to a wide angle to allow you to get down low. I prefer a ball head for macro, as it allows more easy positioning of the camera than a two-way head, but each to their own.
I have a cheap cable release which cost under a fiver from amazon or ebay. I don't think the brand matters too much, just read the reviews first.
I have never found the need for a screen shade, except maybe for a carefully positioned hand, but by all means try one if you have trouble seeing the screen.